Who I am

I’m Kelsey; death doula, herbalist, and the person behind Kairos.

I didn’t land in this work because it sounded beautiful. I landed here because life handed me a year that changed everything.

I walked my sister through a 40-day battle with stage IV cancer as her caregiver. Thirty-one days after she died, my partner died by suicide. Six months later, my uncle followed a nearly identical cancer path. Grief didn’t just visit..it rearranged my entire life.

I share that because it shaped how I practice.

I know how fast hospitals move when families are still trying to understand what’s happening. I know what it feels like to make decisions while your nervous system is exhausted. I know the logistics, the paperwork, the weight of it.

That’s why I do this work. Because having one grounded, steady person in the room changes everything.

Herbalism has always pulled at me. I’ve leaned holistic long before it was mainstream. But after all the loss, Traditional Chinese Medicine and Western herbalism became more than an interest… they became something that brought me back to life.

When I felt empty and nothing excited me, I found studying plants gave me something to care about again. Learning patterns, blending tea formulas, and watching the body respond. It gave me joy in a season where joy felt impossible.

I don’t approach this work casually. Whether I’m sitting bedside or formulating tea, I’m paying attention. To the room. To the body. To what’s actually happening underneath the surface.

Kairos means the right time.

None of us get to control timing. But when it’s your time to need support, whether that’s at the end of life or in the middle of trying to regulate your own, I’m here to walk it with you.